The scientific base of attitude development and its importance in shaping children’s behaviors in the home. This blog is dedicated and written not just to the parents but also to all because time will come, we will going into this stage of our life. So as early as possible, we should be aware of it.
According to Blanchard, Kenneth (co author in the book One Minute Manager) “Living a positive life will make an amazing difference in your children’s live—as well as your own. A positive life is there for anyone, you have only to begin.”From the book that I’ve read “The Power of Positive Parenting”, there are 20 things that will help and guide you become a positive parent. But I’ll just pick the top 5 out of it.
1. JOURNEY OF LIFE.
Being positive in life reflects not just your personality but how you carry those difficult situations and things into a lighter way. And teaching a positive attitudes–is a greatest gift one can give to a child.We all know that life is a trip. It has a definite beginning and ending, with a long, winding road connecting the two points. The quality of that journey depends more on the certain person making the trip than it does on the conditions or circumstances encountered along the way.Having those kind of parents who just not supports you in your good journey but also in the worst part of taking your journey. It is best when a child knows that along the journey, he/she has someone to run to whether it could be a failed journey or success. As for the parents, its does not matter whether the journey of the child became rough as long as in that journey, the child has something to bring in its life and will serve as its foundation whilst he/she is growing. Supporting the path that the child will take is the first step of having a positive parenting.
2. PREPARATION.
If life is a journey, then we tend to make some preparations if we expect to travel it successfully. Effective parents are those who understand that preparation is the key to success.In raising a child, a parent must prepare a systematic plan for the betterment of their child/ren. As a child, my parent always informed me that time will come, I will face the world, and when that day comes learn to go with it and reminds me that they will always there for me. In preparing, this is not just focusing in a certain aspect pf life but the whole or the broad reality that the children might encounter. This way, the preparation will not lead the child/ren to become unknowledgeable or unaware which is a disadvantage.
3. ETHICAL BEHAVIOR.
One aspect of positive parenting most frequently overlooked is the importance of giving children a foundation in ethical and moral principles.
One of the best example of this is, introducing the “Golden Rule” from the Bible to a child/ren. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It is possible to develop every child a home environment because it became a norms. Also, try to discuss the ethical implications of everyday decisions with your children and help them develop morally. With that, the children will grow holistically with some mutual respect, sense of belonging justice and openness.
4. COMMUNICATION.
It is one of the essential things that a parent need ko keep intact. According to psychologist Robert Fisher, the Language of Love, tells an amusing story that shows the degree to which listening is a major part of the whole process of communication. This is the start of building a bond and strong relations with your child/ren. At the heart of good family relationships is healthy communications. Parents who can communicate and knows to listen with their children, are the parent who can easily solve family problems as they arise.
5. BELIEVING IN SELF.
The first thing that helps the children to believe in themselves is having a parents who vocally and expressing their full support in their children. By simply telling them often that you believe in them, helps boosts their self-confidence and trust within. Express to them by sharing your expectations; giving them responsibilities that contribute to the well-being of the family; helping them to acquire the knowledge and skills needed for them to be successful.
Being a parent is not easy, but the book by Dr. William Mitchell and Dr. Charles Paul Conn really help in opening the minds of everybody. We will reach this stage life in the future or in the right time, the early the knowledge have been passed to different people we can make a better and happy home. The purpose of this blog is to make awareness to all, help every home become risk-free to have a place or home in which positive attitudes, self-worth, and success can be built, easily, painlessly, one step at a time.
(Ideas are collected from the book I’ve read.)
The Power of Positive Parenting 